接受不是逃避, 而是面向接受要克服的困難
TuTu[1] 說: We are meant to live in joy. This does not mean that life will be easy or painless. It means that we can turn our faces to the wind and accept that this is the storm we must pass through. We cannot succeed by denying what exists. The acceptance of reality is the only place from which change can begin.
The question is not: How do we escape it? The question is: How can we use this as something positive?
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You shall see for yourself that all manner of things shall be well.
Acceptance -- whether we believe in God or not -- allows us to move into the fullness of joy. It allows us to engage with life on its own terms rather than rail against the fact that life is not as we would wish. It allows us not to struggle against the day-to-day current.
Dalai Lama: 壓力和焦慮來自我們對生命的期待, 當我們接受生命本來的樣貌並非一切都是我們的期待時, 我們才能比較容易的跨過壓力, 焦慮, 和不滿意的情緒.
Stress and anxiety come from our expectations of how life should be. When we are able to accept that life is how it is, not as we think it should be, we are able to ease the ride, to go from that bumpy axle (dukkha), with all its suffering, stress, anxiety, and dissatisfaction, to the smooth axle (sukha), with its greater ease, comfort, and happiness.
Reference
1. Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu and Douglas Abrams, "Acceptance: The only place where change can begin, " in The Book of Joy, Penguin Random House LLC, 2016, pp. 224.